My working definition of Integrity is doing what you say you are going to do, even when no one is looking.

It’s hard.

Just when I think I’ve got it down and my force field is up, someone starts kicking it. Like kicking the tires on a car to assess it.

Kicking the tires of a car tells you nothing, it only shows that the kicker doesn’t know what they’re doing.

I’m going to maintain my Integrity and keep building up my force field. It’s not a wall, it’s layers of protection built of lessons learned. Each new lesson gives me another layer. Another layer between me and you. The world. Another question I ask to determine if you’re genuine. Another deal breaker, if you do this, I don’t want you around. I don’t want you around to test my Integrity. Because it’s hard.




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  1. Your definition of integrity is as clear as day! One thing I find difficult is when I say I’m going to do something and then unforeseen events make me unable to do what I said. What do I do then? Do I do what I said I was going to do late or just never? Or do I just explain myself to the person.

    1. definitely explain yourself, be honest. the other person will thank you for it! they may be upset that you can’t hold up your end of the deal on a specific day, but it’s better to let them know than leave them guessing.

      When “my” guys at work ask me a question I don’t know, I tell them I have to look it up and get back to them. Then I get back to them. I’ve had guys tell me that a situation like that from 8 years ago solidified their respect for me. It’s very gratifying.

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